Posted on May 20th, 2008 by Allison (Family/Friends, Funny Stuff)

ashleyrae.jpgI just learned that my sister, Kristin, has adopted a very important family tradition.  I’m so delighted!

It began when Ashley started dating.  The first time a new suitor would come to do the door, I would answer and greet them.   Unbeknownst to Ashley, The dialogue woud go something like this:

   boy:  Is Ashley home?
   Me: Yes, she is – but first, a song.
   boy:  Huh? 
Me: A song. You need to sing me a song.
   boy:  (visibly weighing options)  Umm…  what song?
   Me: Oh, any song will do. Maybe ________ (then a suggestion).
   boy:  really?

Some took a bit more convincing – not wanting to look foolish, I’m sure.  But when they realized I was dead serious and they were NOT getting in the house, nor was Ashley being made aware of their arrival, they’d give in and sing.   Some even enjoyed themselves, and those were the boys I knew would be fun dates for Ashley.

I heard “Give Said The Little Stream“, “Twinkle Twinkle Little Star” among others.    My all-time favorite response was Ashley’s friend Josh – all 6’4″ of him…. without batting an eye, he launched into “I’m a Little Teapot” (which he chose) and even did the actions.  He got bonus points.

One kid, named Richard, absolutely REFUSED to sing and I eventually relented in letting him in.  But I knew he’d be a very POOR MATCH foor my daughter (which he was… not a fun bone in his body)… and after a far too long dating spell she finally realized it too 🙂

Justin, now her husband, performed Rod Stewart’s – “Have I told you Lately That I Love You” beautifully… ending up on one knee, I believe.   The two of them are still singing today!

jneilposes_61a_sm.jpgSo…. today I learned that J’Neil (my neice) had her first suitor arrive today – and Kristin was serenaded with “Itsy Bitsy Spider.”   I nearly cried with joy.

Since J’Neil is just entering her dating era, Kristin would love a list of song suggestions…. any ideas?   

Did, or do you have any “first date” traditions like this?

(16) Comments   


Worth every note and lyric... Ashley Rae on May 20th, 2008 at 8:30 pm

Ah… yes. This happened WAY more often than I was aware of. I only found out last weekend, while I was vising you, that you had requested this of EVERY suitor who came to visit me. Had I known then, I would have been mortified. I find it amusing, now, of course.

I was only aware of the ones who (a) told me that you made them sing or (b) you were very impressed with so you told me about their song (Josh).

(Justin vividly remembers singing that song on our porch. Apparently his friend was with him (for a double date) and you made him sing, as well.)

Did J’Neil have fun on her date??? How exciting (or possibly dull, depending on the guy) for her!

“Stop! In the Name of Love”
“Knock 3 Times on the Ceiling…”
“Row, Row, Row Your Boat”
“Old McDonald”
“The Witch Doctor”
“The Hokey Pokey” (ones with actions are the best)

michelle on May 21st, 2008 at 6:19 am

LOLOLOLOL…I love “I’m a little teapot” What a perfect tradition to carry on. Good work Kristin…Chris remember this for Abby.

Allison on May 21st, 2008 at 10:03 am

This was such a fun tradition…. I’d LOVE it if Chris carried it on as well!

Ashley, I believe I didn’t start it til we moved to Sandy – so your earlier dates were not subject to your mother’s whims 🙂

I also used to make a kid do cartwheels before I’d give him his paycheck. I only did it a couple of times 🙂

It’s fun to see what people will do if you ask them to. If my waiter/waitress seems particularly friendly, when they ask “Can I get you anything else” I sometimes say…. “No… but how about a dance?” Some of them actually launch into a little dance. I love it.

Kristin on May 21st, 2008 at 4:35 pm

Allison & I have been able to enjoy the dance of many a waitor/waitress in our time. Some of them are great, and no hesistation. Some look around to see who’s watching and, when the coast is clear, they comply with our wishes with a discrete performance. They always get a big tip.

J’Neil has been fully aware of the dating tradition and requirement for years. She’s grown up hearing that’s just the way things are in this family, and she expects her suitors to happily comply.

I’m sure it’s a bit intimidating to these poor boys who have never met me before to have to stand on my porch and sing me a song. But if they are not fun and pleasant enough to do it, they can’t date my daughter.

John came over yesterday primarily so J’Neil could help him with his math homework, so it wasn’t a date, but since he has an interest in my daughter, he is subject to the song rule.

He didn’t know “I’m a little teapot” so last night J’Neil emailed him a list of approved songs, along with their lyrics and anticipated hand/body movements, so he can be prepared for his next visit.

I love the Witchdoctor idea. We’ll have to add it to the list, which currently includes “Head, Shoulders, Knees & Toes”, “Popcorn Popping”, “Wheels on the Bus”, “Once there was a Snowman”, “Pink Pajamas” and “God Bless My Underwear”.

Chris on May 21st, 2008 at 5:30 pm

I actually love this idea. And I would immediately approve more of a young man if he were to make an ass out of himself for my daughter’s sake. “I’m a Little Teapot” is a great one…I’ve never heard of “God Bless my Underwear”….that sounds even better. I also think the Spongebob Squarepants theme song would be fantastic.

Robert on May 21st, 2008 at 6:47 pm

They should sing Rod Stewart’s “Do you think I’m sexy,” or Olivia Newton John’s “Let’s get physical.”

that may give the moms something to think about.. : )

J'Neil on May 21st, 2008 at 7:15 pm

Yes, it was fun to see John sing to my mother. After that adventure he assures me he’ll be prepared for the next performace. I laugh at thinking of some of the people I know singing and dancing to those songs… I think the “chicken dance” should be added, it’s got excellent actions to go with it.

Ashley Rae on May 21st, 2008 at 7:35 pm

“God Bless My Underwear?”… lol. That sounds fabulous.
Yes, J’Neil- the chicken dance is a fun one to watch people perform…

Kristin on May 21st, 2008 at 7:45 pm

I’m sure John is not yet prepared to launch into this song, but he was very polite and very pleasant and he may come visit her again.


God, bless my underwear
The only pair I own
Stand beside them,
And guide them,
As they sit in a heap all alone.

From the washer,
To the clothesline,
To my dresser drawer,
To my rear!

God, bless my underwear,
My only pair.
God, bless my underwear,
Or I’ll be bare.

Jean on May 22nd, 2008 at 1:40 pm

I wish I had thought of this…great idea I am going to pass it along to my girls.

On Tori’s first date her friend Wendy was at the house when he arrived and ran and picked up the bible… and opened it and quote ” Touch me not or the Lord will smite thee ” Much to everyones amusement except Tori’s.

Erica on May 22nd, 2008 at 4:45 pm

lol!! This is great.

irene on May 26th, 2008 at 6:32 pm

:o) :O)

Jennifer Pearce on May 30th, 2008 at 3:26 pm

Hmmm…I can’t help but wonder what kind of performance Brandon would have given for my parents, if it had been a requirement at my house, which of course it wasn’t (to the best of my knowledge). 🙂

Allison on May 30th, 2008 at 3:30 pm

That’s an excellent question, Jennifer! Next time he asks you to do something for him, or go somewhere with him say, “OK – but first, a song” and see what he sings 🙂

Kristin Cottle on June 1st, 2008 at 4:51 pm

I think Brandon would have done an outstanding job. Your parents missed out. Yes, I agree with Allison. Next time he asks for something that’s a bit of a sacrafice, ask for a song in exchange.

Kristin on June 1st, 2008 at 4:54 pm

“John wants to come over. But he wants to know first if he has to sing this time…”

I told he doesn’t have to sing every time — Guys must always sing on a first date, of course — but the rest of the time, they just have to be prepared to sing one if requested.

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